This morning I saw an astonishing news on ABC’s Good Morning America: a father shooting his daughter’s laptop, which he bought, and posting his justification on YouTube. In the beginning, it sounded funny, but when I watched it again online, it somehow made me sad. It made me question: what’s happening to families in this “modern” age?! What happened to disciplining kids at home instead of lynching them in public? Why do most teenagers rebel; why are some of them so disrespectful to their parents? Is that just hormonal or a product of bad parenting? Who is to blame? Parents? Teenagers themselves? Divorce? The decadent culture? The society? The movies? Social Media? Hip Hop? Punk Rock? Rap? Pop? Government? Schools and higher institutions? Teachers? Professors? The law? Who? Have most parents forgotten how to raise their children? What is the best way to raise morally conscious and responsible children without compromising their independence? And what’s the worst way of raising a child? Does following some kind of religion help or does it make it worse? Is being liberal a spoiler of kids? Is being conservative a better alternative or it can be worse? Etc.
Teenagers and parents in the age of social media (FB, YouTube, Twitter, …), smart-phones, tablets, and the internet => worst case scenario: daughter ranting about or disrespecting her parents on Facebook, and father revenging on YouTube! Please watch the video, and have your say! 🙂
People’s reaction after watching the video has been quite mixed. Some have said “BRAVO!” to the dad, and others have denounced him as “the worst BULLY!” I say neither the daughter nor the father is right! Besides he is the oldest here. Obviously, I would not defend the daughter’s action. But I believe the father has a responsibility to protect his daughter despite her mistakes, and to discipline her without hurting or further exposing the family privacy! He could have disciplined her without embarrassing both of them in front of the world. Just because she “insulted him” on FB, it does not mean he has to do the same on YouTube! That only makes me think that her “rebellious nature” is a product of his (bad) parenting, not to mention the psychological impact of divorce on this teenage girl! His action, which is fueled by anger and lack of reasoning, will only make his daughter resent him more; to me, he looks like a lost or confused father who has no idea how to discipline his child. Though difficult to put oneself in his shoes, I just can’t agree with his action. And if I were the girl, I would feel threatened to live with my father who shoots “my” laptop with his pistol and brags about it publicly. What’s next? Shoot me?
To be honest with you, I am sick and tired of families washing their dirty laundries in public, from courtroom dramas, realty shows, now to FB and YouTube; come on, why do we have homes and family meetings?! (Well, on the positive side, when families wash their dirty laundries in public, there is one advantage to the rest of us: we learn important lessons at their cost!)
But the fundamental question remains: who is to blame?
What say you? 😉